Female Dominants as Porn Delivery

One thing that has really begun to niggle is the number of men out there claiming to be submissive, but when push comes to shove and they make an appointment to see a Pro-domme they are the ones who want to stipulate, right down to the very last detail what will happen or not happen in a session. Now don't get me wrong they are paying for the service in the same way that they would to see an escort so to some extent yes the consumer has the right to stipulate much as they would with a tailor what they want to receive in exchange for their dinari.

But..and this is quite a large but.. if they were truly submissive surely they would be saying things like "it's entirely up to you"..."I just wish to serve" etc etc...instead of "oh I'd like this, that, the next thing, for you to be wearing x,y and z, oh and then I want you to do this to me, and then I want you to force me to do that..." most of the time the scenarios that I get emailed would not look out of place in really bad porn, alongside the pizza delivery boy at the door with the "XXX sausage pizza" or the plumber who is far more interested in her waterworks than her sink. You get the picture?

I do wonder what these guys label themselves as submissive for, when truth be told they just want to be able to script a scene and have someone act it out on them. BDSM is perhaps becoming the victim of its own recent success and popularity, the watering down and trickle to the high street shops instead of the more underground and suspicious thing it once was. Just about every twentie-something on a dating site seems to proclaim a tendancy towards kink and kinkiness is now no longer dark and intriguing when you can get it in Ann Summers.

As a switch, and sub to my dominant partner, I wouldn't unless asked expect to have input into a scene, I take orders and even if I am not wholely comfortable with something because it's pushing my limits I know I have to at least try it. I certainly would not expect to be allowed to dictate and script something that basically resulted in my pleasure and my other half simply being the method of delivery. Yes you could argue that if I was paying him I might have the right to, but for me submission is about giving those rights up willingly and sometimes less willingly of course, but giving them up none the less. Placing myself under his control and trusting him to keep me safe while challenging me, and making sure that he also enjoys and gets pleasure from the session or scene.

All I see from the pseudo-subs that contact me is a collection of emails that leave me for the most part completely cold and wondering why they don't just ask a more vanilla woman to pop on an outfit and act the role. Because really they want to play games rather than actually experience submission at the hands of a dominant female.

Some of course are genuine...but I would have to say that it can only be 1 in 10, and that is a figure influenced I am sure by the sun shining in the window and lightening my mood.